Through The Eyes Of A Rapist - A Women's Self Defense

I ran across this tidbit of information that I found interesting. I took note of it to share with my 16 year old daughter, but thought it was important to share with anyone else who may come across this. You never know when it might save a life!

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES
(PLEASES TAKE TIME TO READ THIS)
"A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

What Are Some Things Rapist or Abductors Look For:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.


POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1] Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2] Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3] If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4] Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5] A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6] ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7] If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8] As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

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THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.

SOURCE: http://goo.gl/uzydR — with Kimberly So Blessed Jackson, Tiffany Hughes, Shana Elahi and 40 others.

Laugh to Keep From Crying

      Today is President's Day. Another one of those holidays that the kids could care less about, but they get the day off of school anyway. It is pouring down rain, thundering & lightning here. Just as I get on the computer to work, I hear...."MOM, I'm bored!".
That was my 12 year old who doesn't think he will live if he has to go a whole day without video games or cable. Of course, my answer was "I have some things for you to do, clean your room, play one of your games, make me something cool." But of course, THAT is not what he wanted to hear.
     Not long after, my 16 year old comes in and says, "Mom, what can I have to eat?" She just ate an entire frozen pizza and a plate of corn, but somehow felt that she was still starving.
I come out of my "office" for a minute, just to look around and see  why it is so hard for a 12 and 16 year old to fend for themselves for all of an hour while Mom gets some work done.
     The first thing I notice was Chance our dog, spinning circles at the front door..."Can ANYONE take him out please?" Then my eyes glance to the kitchen where I see an empty pizza box, and dirty dishes on the counter..."Do we NOT know how to find the trashcan?" There were things strung from one end of the house to the other, music blaring from one of the bedrooms, and the TV in the living room turned up loud enough to hear over the music. WHAT IS GOING ON HERE? About that time my son throws a piece of paper across the living room into the kitchen, hitting the side of the trash can and falling on the floor. I gave him "The look". He says, "What, I'm throwing it away. I was just trying to have some fun!"
     I covered my eyes, and shook my head. I was so frustrated I wanted to cry. I take a deep breath, and decided to lighten up. It is their day off after all. I picked up the paper and slam dunked it into the trash can, followed by my daughter launching her balled up pizza box in the same fashion. They walked around picking up everything they could find to "shoot" into the trashcan, which turned into a game where we kept score and all. I could feel the tension release, and my mind unclutter for a few moments while I had fun with them, and kept myself from going completely insane. After our game, they began picking up other messes, and finding things to help with...on their own. I guess just having a little family fun was enough to get them off their butts. The dog got taken out, laundry was thrown in, beds were made, and quiet grew among the house again.

     Sometimes we just need to laugh to keep from crying. Take a break in our day to see things a little different. I am ready for them to go back to school tomorrow, but glad that I took a few moments to stop what I was doing and enjoy the time.

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     Sitting at home, wondering what to do next only made things worse. Working with 4 and 5 year-olds all day was my exercise! So when I didn't have shoes to tie, messes to clean, singing, dancing, and sitting criss-cross applesauce on the floor...I sat at the computer....and did nothing. 
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